The emotional toll of ending a marriage often takes time to overcome. This can make it challenging to communicate with your ex regarding matters related to the children. It’s critical that you take the necessary steps to try to improve communication so the children’s best interests can be protected.
There are several ways that you may be able to keep communication calm, but you must take your circumstances into account when determining what to do. These three tips are typically suitable for anyone in this position.
1: Remain calm and focused
You must remain calm when you speak to your ex. Try to keep the conversation focused on the children. Discussing the things that led to the end of the marriage likely won’t do any good, so it’s usually best to leave the past behind and focus on the children now.
2: Choose a suitable communication method
Some exes can communicate through phone calls or in person, but that’s not suitable for everyone. Sometimes, texts, emails or messages through parenting apps are the better choices.
3: Set boundaries for compromise
Being able to work with your ex to do what’s best for the children is crucial. Compromise must work both ways, so you and your ex will have to work together to make these decisions. It’s still important to set suitable boundaries so your ex doesn’t take advantage of your willingness to compromise.
Having a solid parenting plan is also important because it sets the guidelines for parenting decisions and time. Working with someone who’s familiar with these situations may make it easier to get the terms set.